The Reason Behind Unprotected Love – The Obsession Of Public Opinion
It kind of sounds like we want to talk about unprotected sex, I mean, the topic! But that’s not the subject at all. The subject that we’re going to talk about is the reason behind unprotected love relationship. And we have particularly focused on the obsession of public opinion as a problem for many in love relationships.
When we mention the obsession of public opinion as a problem with people in relationships, we are saying that they can not protect it because they always want to know what other people say about their spouses, lovers or love interests to make them feel good about their own relationships. If you said that they want public approval for personal issues, you would be correct.
People’s opinions are what these people will allow to influence their decisions concerning a relationship which is supposed to be a personal and private matter. Some relatable examples can be, a man in love with a lady but he wants to know what his friends think about the lady. He may ask questions like these to his friends, “Is she beautiful? How do you like her curves? Is her backside cute? Isn’t she like Beyonce? Does she smell good? Speak well?” They may even go on comparing her physical features to that of what his friends consider cute, and in vogue, without even thinking about her education, character or love involved in the relationship.
In such a relationship, the love which should be a core factor is never prioritized. And the funniest part of the malaise is that whatever his friends conclude might be the idea he would buy and let influence his decisions in that relationship. If his friends criticize her, he would refrain from the relationship irrespective of other great factors.
The Ladies Too
The obsession of public opinion is not limited to men alone, women are also involved in this myopic view of searching for public opinions and approvals. It even goes to the extent of bringing home affairs online or social media seeking from the public what you should do about issues within your bedroom.
No! Do not seek for public opinion or approval of something you like or someone you love. Public opinions are way too many and everyone has an opinion. If your relationship depends on what everyone has to say, ooh, you will destroy yourself and the relationship.
To put it simply, public opinion does not count. It is yours that matters. People’s opinions can take the life out of you. It can take you out of your destined partner, because one man’s like may be another’s dislike. What may please you may not please the other. So be happy with what makes you happy without seeking for what others think about it. Keep your relationship personal and private. You may seek professional counsel but certainly not public opinions.
The Fall Out
I have seen couples fall out of love because of what other people told them about their spouses and personal lives. I have seen relationships suffer because people who weren’t there at the start of the relationship were allowed to negatively influence the relationship of others.
Husbands have left marriages and destroyed relationships just because they suddenly realized that their wives of so many years had smaller butts which they have always appreciated until recently. What happened? They heard from male colleagues that women with big butts are in vogue, and they started distancing their lovers and having affairs with big-butt ladies. They allowed public opinion to deceive them.
Protecting The Trust
Just imagine a lady loves and trusts you with her life. To her, you are everything, and you both are getting along well. At least, she expects you to protect the love she has entrusted you with. But one day you wake up and say, you’re not interested in loving her again. Why? Because people said that she is too old for you, or that her boobs are saggy, after giving birth to your children. You, the husband, believed what you heard instead of protecting your love, relationship, and lover. You went ahead in search of younger-looking girls just to massage your social egos. But this is all wrong as far as the relationship is concerned. You have to protect the trust invested in your relationship by not letting just anything you hear to change the perspective and reason for falling in love in the first place.
When you both love yourselves from your hearts, it doesn’t really matter what others say about whatever. What matters is what you both have to say about your relationship. It’s a personal thing that must be protected from outside intruders. Not everything that happens within a relationship should come out to the public. What’s public is public and what is private remains private. And relationship falls in the latter. It’s a private thing, not the public. It’s “My business” and every other person should stay out of it.
The obsession of public opinion destroys relationships. Protect your love interests. Protect your partner. Protect your relationship. Do not believe and accept just whatever you hear. Do not let divorce set in because of what you heard from outside of the home which is baseless. Do not aspire to love someone because of the praises people say of him or her. Let your love come from within you and above all: protect it from external negative influence.
Tell us, has your relationship been marred, bruised, and affected by what you heard, whether truth or baseless? And how did you react when someone told you something negative about the one you love?
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