15 PROOFS THAT SHOW YOU ARE READY FOR MARRIAGE
Introduction
Marriage is not just a venture you rush into, it is a significant commitment that requires emotional readiness, maturity, and a solid foundation. To be married is to be fully committed to all it takes for that marriage to work. Marriage is not a guesswork, it involves two mature individuals who are willing to do whatever it takes to make it work. Deciding if you’re ready to take this step involves introspection and assessing various aspects of your life and relationship. I have seen marriages fail to work due to the mindset of the individuals involved. When I was planning to settle down with my husband, I heard a series of stories and experiences both positive and negative, however, I chose to go ahead because we knew what we wanted and what was expected of us in that marriage. Marriage needs preparation, you need to know if you are truly ready to settle down with your partner. Marriage is not an institution you enter into to test if it will work or not, no! There is a need to be prepared and equipped for this.
Several people have asked questions like how do I know I am ready for marriage? How will I know I am now fit to have a home? Is it just about getting a good job? Having a house of my own? What do I need to know!?
This article will consider 15 Proofs that show you are ready for Marriage.
1. You Communicate Effectively (Proverbs 12:18):
How effective is your communication with your partner even in that relationship? Are you both finding it easy to communicate with each other? This is because open and honest communication is crucial in any relationship, especially in marriage. If you and your partner can discuss difficult topics, resolve conflicts respectfully, and listen to each other’s perspectives, it’s a positive sign of readiness. How effective your communication is determines how ready you are. Maturity in speech, in conflict resolution, and proferring solutions to each other’s problems in a respectable manner reveals how ready you both are and how committed you both will be in that relationship.
2. You Share Common Values (Proverbs 29:18):
Do you share common values? If you do, obviously you are ready to be together. I have seen couples whose values are different, it’s either the woman doesn’t want kids when they get married but only wants their children adopted or he wants more children than his partner wants. Shared values provide a strong basis for a lasting partnership. When you and your partner align on major issues such as family, religion, finances, and life goals, it enhances your compatibility and the likelihood of a successful and peaceful marriage. Whatever value you have as a couple, it must be shared. It must be a value you both agree with.
3. You’re Financially Responsible (1 Timothy 5:8):
To avoid frustration, don’t enter into marriage idle. It is true you believe in divine provision but it’s more wise to enter Marriage with a good source of income. Marriage often involves merging finances and making joint decisions. Being financially responsible, having a stable income, managing debts sensibly, and discussing financial goals together are signs of readiness for the financial aspects of marriage. As a woman, have a job at hand, as a man, refuse to be idle. It’s not ideal to birth to children without any means of raising them. It’s more frustrating to depend on family and friends to cater to your needs. Therefore, this is one of the proofs that you are ready to get married.
4. You’ve Discussed Your Future Together (Jeremiah 29:11):
Don’t wait till you get to the bridge before you cross, cross the bridge right from now before you enter into it. Discussion about the future is one of the things you shouldn’t joke about before getting married. Do you know her plans? Do you know his? Open discussions about your plans, including where you want to live, whether you want children, and career aspirations, demonstrate that you’re both thinking long-term and are on the same page about your life together. Yes! When you both start discussing the future even before you start a home reflects how ready you are to spend a lifetime together.
5. You’ve Experienced Life Together (Galatians 6:2):
Have you spent difficult moments together and you are still standing tall together? Have you shared each other’s pains and burdens? Sharing experiences and facing challenges as a couple can reveal how well you support each other and pull through difficulties and issues in life. Whether it’s traveling together, praying and fasting together, or going through tough times, these experiences can strengthen your bond and readiness for marriage. When you both carry each other along in difficult moments, seek solutions to problems, and bear your burdens together, it shows that in marriage, you both will stick together even in tough times.
6. You’ve Built A Supportive Network (Proverbs 11:14):
Who are those you look up to? Your parents, friends? Spiritual parents? Counselors? These networks must be people with a positive mindset, a mindset that pushes you to stay committed to your home and your spouse. Having supportive friends and family who respect your relationship and provide positive reinforcement can contribute to a healthy marriage. It’s essential to have a network that encourages and uplifts both partners. Therefore, establish such a network before starting a home because these are people you can run to when you get confused at a certain stage in your marriage.
7. You’re Emotionally Mature (Proverbs 4:23):
Emotional maturity can not be overlooked when it comes to marriage. Emotional maturity involves being self-aware, able to manage emotions effectively, and empathetic towards your partner. Some find it difficult to manage their emotions even before they get and this has made them lose responsible partners. Some are just jealous for nothing, so exhibit extreme anger that constantly destroys relationships they have built over the years! Getting mature emotionally allows you to handle the complexities of marriage, including dealing with stress, compromise, and emotional intimacy because whether you like it or not, you will be faced with challenges that will tamper with your emotions. Your ability to control your emotions is proof of your readiness for marriage.
8. You’re Ready To Compromise (1 Corinthians 10:24):
When you both place importance on each other’s needs above your individual needs, then you both are ready. Marriage requires compromise and prioritizing the relationship over individual desires most of the time. If you and your partner are willing to negotiate, make sacrifices, and find solutions that benefit both of you, you’re likely prepared for the give-and-take of married life. Marriage requires commitment and selflessness, you both must be willing to give it what is required by all means. If you find it easy doing that even before you both settle down together, then you are ready for marriage.
9. You Feel Secure And Committed (Matthew 9:6):
Trust is essential in any relationship. Any relationship lacking trust can not last. Do you trust the man you want to marry? Do you trust that lady you want to make your wife? If you do, you will enjoy peace in your home. Feeling secure in your relationship, trusting your partner, and being committed to each other’s happiness are essential foundations for marriage. If this is missing, such a home will lack happiness and harmony. Trust, love, respect, loyalty, and a deep emotional connection indicate readiness for a lifelong commitment.
10. You’re Excited About Your Future Together (Romans 8:18-25):
Whenever you think about your future with your partner, do you feel excited? If the idea of spending your life with your partner fills you with joy, excitement, and a sense of fulfillment, it’s a strong indicator that you’re emotionally prepared to take the step toward marriage and it is proof that you will give it all it takes to work!
11. You Respect Each Other’s Independence (1 Peter3:7):
This has to do with understanding boundaries and having a good understanding of who your partner is. A healthy marriage involves both partners maintaining their individuality while building a life together. If you respect each other’s personal space, hobbies, and friendships, it shows that you understand the importance of independence within a relationship.
12. You’ve Learned From Past Relationships (Proverbs 21:11):
This is very crucial and that is the reason why counselors will always advise couples to read books and learn from couples whose marriages have thrived for decades and also learn from those who made mistakes and these mistakes ended up pulling them apart. Reflecting on past relationships and understanding what worked and what didn’t can provide valuable lessons. If you’ve grown from these experiences and are applying that knowledge to your current relationship, it’s a sign of maturity and readiness.
13. You’re Willing To Grow Together (2 Peter 3):
Growth is a gradual thing that occurs when individuals are willing to become a better version of themselves. When you both are willing to become better, and outgrow certain stages of life, together, then it’s proof that you both are ready for marriage. Personal growth doesn’t stop once you’re married. If you and your partner are committed to growing together, learning from each other, and adapting to changes, it indicates a strong foundation for a lasting marriage.
14. You Can Handle Conflict Constructively (Matthew 18:15-16):
How often do you disagree and settle it without affecting how you feel about each other? This is because disagreements are inevitable in any relationship. If you and your partner can handle conflicts without resorting to hostility, blame, or avoidance, and instead work towards understanding and resolution, it’s a sign of a healthy and ready relationship. Certain individuals couldn’t end up getting married due to unresolved conflicts and most of the time, these conflicts are usually issues that don’t need to affect a relationship but due to their inability to constructively handle conflict, such relationships collapse. When you both disagree and agree in love, it’s proof that you both are ready for marriage.
15. You’re Prepared For The Long Haul (John 16:33):
In life, challenges come, troubles come, and we become faced with different life difficulties. Marriage is a long-term commitment that involves facing life’s ups and downs together. If you and your partner are ready to support each other through sickness, health, financial highs and lows, and other challenges, it shows a readiness for the enduring journey of marriage.
Marriage is a personal journey, it is a lifetime institution and readiness can vary for each couple. Reflecting on these proofs can help you assess your readiness and discuss important aspects with your partner to ensure you’re both prepared for this significant commitment. However, as you access these proofs and are willing to settle down with your partner, shun fear and trust fully in the help and backing of God to help you and guide you at all times. I see you having a beautiful, peaceful, and long-lasting marriage, in Jesus’ name. Amen.
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