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Many a time, we downplay the potency of prayer. We treat it like some quick fix. You know, the usual thing before a meal or the start of a day. Other times, prayer is the emergency helpline we run to when we suddenly need divine intervention in our lives. Say when we want counsel on a career choice, healing, or a marriage partner.
While our gracious God never throws anyone away who comes to Him in truth (Jn. 6:37), how better would our lives be if we changed our mindset about prayer from being an emergency help line to actually being our lifeline? This is especially valid in romantic relationships because God is the One who holds all things together (Col. 1:17).
He is the King of hearts (Prov. 21:1). And it’s in Him we live, move, and have our being – so do our partners (Acts 17:28). Building your relationship on any foundation except Christ means that you build in vain (Ps. 127:1), and your relationship may not stand the test of time (Lk. 6:49). When we take God out of the picture, we can never have the perfect photograph.
So, with all said, how is prayer deeper than a mere cliché or routine? And how is it important in romantic relationships, and even in the lives of singles preparing for them? I pray that this piece enlightens your heart and ignites the fire of desire to pray in you. Do read on.
Reasons Why Prayer is Indispensable in a Romantic Relationship
1. Prayer Aligns Love With God’s Will And Purpose
We often think that God is against our relationships. Better put, we feel that He does not care about our romantic relationships or that His commands regarding them are to irk us. But that is simply a farce. If God calls Himself love (1 Jn. 4:8), and will die for that love (Jn. 3:16), what other sort of romance do you want to see to believe that He is for your relationship?
God is the author of every true love story. When you pray for or with your partner, you invite God into the story He authored. And He is faithful to initiate the desire, and lead and guide you through the whole process according to His will (Phil. 1:6; 2:13). God is good and won’t force Himself on you, but if you will let Him in, He will wow you.
2. Prayer Strengthens Emotional and Spiritual Intimacy
How do you feel when you know that someone prays and intercedes for you daily? I can bet that you feel loved, and you feel valued. Now imagine that the person in question is your partner. It gets better when, as you pray together, you share your burdens, fears, joys, and woes, and then you do not just lament over them, but you humbly submit them to the One who can handle them, believing in the power of agreement (Jas. 5:16; Matt. 18:20).
A couple united in prayer is stronger and more intimate than a couple united by any other means or having no unity at all. So pray – alone, but especially together. You will testify to the connection!
3. Prayer Guards the Relationship Against Conflict and Temptation
As I write this, I remember Jesus’ words: Pray that you may not enter into temptation (Matt. 26:41). Various things can stress a relationship, say, pressure from within and without, hard seasons, misunderstandings, personal flaws, and even spiritual attacks. In these times, bended knees, raised hands, and bowed hearts are not optional.
They are your best arsenal. Prayer not only equips you to escape falling into temptation, but it also equips you to handle the tough times. And you can bet that there’ll be a handful. Prayer gives you the grace to have the hard conversations, bear with each other, forgive, grow, and move forward. Ask for His grace (Heb. 4:16).
4. Prayer Teaches Selflessness and Sacrificial Love
You may have heard it said: prayer not only changes things, but it also changes people. And that’s very true! The more you commune with a person you enjoy, the more spurred you are to do things that please that person to maintain the relationship. It’s the same with your relationship with God. The more of God you know through prayer, the more you desire to be like Him, and His character rubs off on you.
And the more like Jesus you are, the more your partner enjoys you because at the heart of every godly marriage is sacrificial love. It gets even better because constant fellowship with the Holy Spirit convicts you of where you have done wrong or where you need a “character makeover,” and you can always trust Him to work the inner transformation that leads to worthy behavior.
5. Prayer Helps Heal Wounds and Restore Brokenness
No relationship is immune to pain. The people we love often hurt us. Sometimes, truly without their knowledge, and other times, they are cognizant but are just too uppity to admit it. It may be wounds from a spouse, an ex, someone envious of the relationship, or even a figure while growing up. But the good news is that God cares.
“He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds” (Psalm 147:3). You can boldly invite God into your healing process through prayer. Be honest about where it hurts, who you’re finding difficult to forgive, or even if you find it hard to trust again. Give Him the broken pieces. He can handle it (Ps. 51:17). He’s not called the Potter for nothing.
6. Prayer Provides Direction During Uncertainty
I fell in love with this verse that says: Whether you turn to the right or to the left, your ears will hear a voice behind you, saying, “This is the way; walk in it” (Isa. 30:21). In a marriage, there are bound to be many decisions to be made. And the outcome of these decisions usually affects all those concerned – the partners, children, relatives, and the like.
Even singles or people in a dating relationship need to make the right decisions to avoid choices that they will later regret. This is where prayer comes to the fore. God reveals His will to His friends (Amos 3:7). He led Rebecca to Isaac (See Gen. 24), and we become His friends when we prioritize our relationship with Him. Want to be led aright? Then pray honestly always.
7. Prayer Builds Spiritual Leadership and Mutual Submission
This is most applicable in a home. The father is the head of the home as established by Scripture (Eph. 5:23). When a man takes his place as the spiritual leader of his home and is not remiss about his responsibilities, his family is most often headed in the right direction. In fact, his wife and children are spurred to obey and submit because he is taking responsibility.
When partners pray, it shows that they honor God and so place Him in His rightful place in their relationship, recognizing that a good relationship is not built by efforts alone but by grace. It also keeps partners accountable before each other and before God, when they recognize Him as their Head and the third strand who completes their relationship (Eccl. 4:12).
8. Prayer Invites God’s Presence and Blessings on The Relationship
This is a summation of all the points above. When partners in a relationship pray, God is pleased (Prov. 15:8). And to those who please Him, God gives unfathomable blessings (Deut. 28:1-14). Partners enjoy divine protection, provision, favor, multiplication, and the mercy of God. They also enjoy longevity because prayer stills anxiety (Phil. 4:6-7).
Their relationship is set apart, radiating God’s glory because He is glorified by it. And they, in turn, become channels of blessings to others around them. Not just that, but they become generational blessings that change the course of history. Take an example from Isaac and Rebecca. Their prayer brought forth Israel (Gen. 25:21-23). And we are the Israel of God!
Finally, don’t ever leave God out of your love life, or better still, your whole life. He is the author of your story. And we can always be grateful that He’s not a belligerent villain plotting our downfall. So you can trust Him to handle all that concerns you. It’s His help in your relationship that makes it great.
Again, just because it’s prayer doesn’t mean it has to be complicated. God is a Father and a Friend just as much as He is Lord of all. So invite Him, and be honest without taking Him for granted. Enjoy a peaceful confab in His company and hold nothing back. You will love the outcome, I can assure you. Stay blessed, warrior.
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