10 WAYS TO SPICE UP SEX IN YOUR MARRIAGE
As a devout Christian, my husband and I stayed committed to our faith and marriage as we were Christians actively involved in serving God. We were committed to the point that we left no room for sexual commitment when we got married. We rarely mated but we had a huge time studying the Bible, praying, and fasting while we overlooked the aspect of physical intimacy.
We both grew up in a conservative family where our parents had never discussed sex, no sex education and the little we had about it was as a result of books read. Our intimacy lacked passion and excitement and we both saw sex as something of less importance even though the time we spent together some times were usually enjoyed. We didn’t give enough time to explore and consistently make each other happy.
As time went on, we longed for deeper connection and fulfilment in our relationship when we noticed we had been growing apart. We didn’t know how to break free from the constraints of our religious upbringing as we both have gotten knitted to our careers. A time came when we got tired of this and sought guidance from our Pastor who encouraged us to seek God and ask Him for whatever we needed while exploring the biblical teachings on marital intimacy. This helped us greatly as we experienced a profound transformation in our marriage. Our intimacy got reignited as we both started enjoying spending quality time together.
This story is an experience shared with me by an older woman when I was about to get married. If you have something similar going on and you desire a home full of sexual bliss and excitement, pick a chair and read this article till the end.
Introduction
The union between couples extends beyond companionship, in marriage. Creating an environment where love, trust, passion and intimacy exist is of great importance in marriage. As you grow together and spend years together, the flames of desire may dim and the desire to have good sex may diminish.
This article will help you by providing you with 10 effective ways in which you can spice up your sex life in marriage and have a sex-fulfilled marriage as God intended it to be.
How then can you spice up sex in your marriage?
1. Communication
2. Explore New Techniques
3. Schedule Intimate Time
4. Invest In Good Romance
5. Focus On Foreplay
6. Try New Locations
7. Prioritize Mutual Satisfaction
8. Read Books on Sex Constantly
9. Explore Mutual interests and Hobbies
10. Seek Professional Help If Needed
1. Communication
For any relationship to thrive, communication is of utmost importance. As couples, you should discuss your desires, and fantasies openly and honestly, boundaries and work together to create a safe space for exploration and understanding. You both should speak the truth in love and jointly nurture genuine connection (Ephesians 4:15).
2. Explore New Techniques
To spice your sex life as a couple, variety is relevant. You both should experiment with different sex positions, send sensual messages to each other during the way and when you are apart, do what you both have not been doing before, activities that can reignite passion and spice up your sex life (Song of Solomon 1:2).
3. Schedule Intimate Time
Couples who are mostly busy will find it hard to spend time together. To spice up your sex life, schedule time for intimacy and ensure you both stay committed to whichever time you agree to come together. As couples, you should not deprive each other except by mutual consent. Also, try as much as possible to create time for your spouse to avoid temptation (1 Corinthians 7:5).
4. Invest In Romance
It amazes me when I see couples who are 20 to 30 years into marriage thinking romance is not only meant for newlyweds. Romance isn’t just for the early stages of marriage. Your spouse should be surprised with thoughtful gestures, notes, and romantic dates. Reignite the spark in your marriage by keeping passion alive. As a man, rejoice in the wife of your youth and find delight in her love ( Proverbs 5:18-19).
5. Focus On Foreplay
Foreplay is very vital for connection during lovemaking. It isn’t just a prelude to sex, foreplay is a very important part of the sexual experience, between couples. Spend quality time exploring your spouse’s body by engaging in sensual touch, kissing, and caressing because these help in arousing your spouse for better performance. Women mostly need to be treated patiently as it’s often believed that foreplay helps in building sex urges in women. Therefore, prioritize satisfying your spouse by awakening the passion for sex between you both (Song of Solomon 2:6).
6. Try New Locations
Sex between couples may be boring if done at the same place and in the same manner. Try exploring a different location like a romantic getaway, a different place in your home apart from the bedroom, your kitchen, bathroom, living room and possibly, your study room. This gives your spouse a sense of “a new experience.” Changing the scene possibly adds excitement to your sex life. Isaac took Rebekah into his mother’s tent. This symbolizes Intimacy and commitment (Genesis 24:67). There are locations you haven’t explored in your home, explore them today.
7. Prioritize Mutual Satisfaction
Most of the time I hear some married persons say “My husband/wife doesn’t satisfy me in bed.” There is a need for couples to focus on satisfying each other sexually and not make it one-sided. Ask your spouse for what you want them to do to you during lovemaking and do them with love and desire to satisfy them. Don’t be selfish during lovemaking, ensure your spouse gets satisfied (Philippians 2:4).
8. Read Books On Sex Constantly
Reading helps in increasing knowledge. Read books on sex as they help in enhancing intimacy in marriage. The knowledge you gather while reading Christian articles on sex can be transferred to your bedroom as you explore them with your spouse. Honour and cherish your body within the context of your marriage (1 Corinthians 6:19-20). The knowledge we gather through reading sticks longer. Therefore, read and explore them with your spouse.
9. Explore Mutual interests and Hobbies
These interests and hobbies can be explored outside of the bedroom and can help reignite the spark in your home. You both should engage in activities like dancing together, cooking, singing, and cleaning. This helps in bonding you both. Companionship is of utmost importance in marriage ( Ecclesiastes 4:9-12). Therefore, you both should find common ground and do things together as one.
10. Seek Professional Help If Needed
Issues may arise in your marriage at any point, seeking professional help is not abnormal. Don’t hesitate to seek professional help when challenges that can put you apart arise. Seek help when necessary ( Proverbs 11:14).
In conclusion, spicing up your sex life as a couple is sacred and transformative. By prioritizing communication, exploration, spending quality time together, mutual satisfaction and constantly gathering knowledge through books, you both can cultivate a deeper connection and reignite the passion within your marriage. As couples, commit to exploring and deepening your connection by engaging in those points discussed above as they will not only enrich your marital bonds but will also honour the divine gift of intimacy that God has bestowed upon you.
May you enjoy the grace and help of God in your home as you prioritize satisfying your spouse’s sexual needs, in Jesus’ name. Amen.
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