Why Do Some Men Never Get Married? Part 3 – Marriage And Relationship
We started talking about this series a couple of days ago with our Part One, Part Two and now our Part Three, titled, Why Do Some Men Never Get Married? Part 3 – Marriage And Relationship. We intend to help the potential husbands and husbands as well locate themselves as they see what reflects that which they are going through.
Also, they can learn from the article to make changes and avoid a repeat of their experiences. This article equally helps couples see things differently that can add strength to romantic relationships and cause the maturity of partners in marital union. Please read the other parts to the series for a good understanding of the subject.
In continuation, Some men never get married because of the following reasons:
1. Because Some Boys Grew Up In Abused Homes
The victims of domestic abuse are not just the primary ones unto whom the barbaric acts were meted, but the viewers also who watched it happen are all victims of domestic abuse.
Domestic abuse has a bad parental influence on everyone at home. When the dad and mom are always fighting and dad harshly insulting and hitting mom in front of the children, that kind of bad influence of their parents may take its toll on the little boys to the point where they form a different marital philosophy of rejecting marriage as not worth the headache. They may not want to marry when they become adults for fear that such abuse and violence may come their way too. Bad parental influence can make sons see marriage as a burden to avoid rather than a blessing.
2. Because Of Husband Abuse
Let’s be sincere here. Hello Ladies?! Can I speak the truth? You know, we’ve been talking so much about women abuse, and wife abuse but we have not focused on the most ignored abuse at home which is the husband abuse. We, women, know that husband abuse is real. At times conspicuous and other times abstruse or subtle. When we hear of abuse, the first thing that comes to mind is a man against a woman. But we hardly think of the opposite–a woman abusing a man. There are women who mistreat their husbands and reduce them to objects of pity, you know.
Husband abuse may be physical, emotional (with an underscore), and verbal. Some men who’ve been in abusive relationships may not want to marry or remarry if the relationship comes to an end. Consequently, they embrace singlehood because of the abuse by their wives.
3. Because Of Several Failed Marital Attempts
Some men don’t want to marry again because of the too many marriages that ended up in divorce for one reason or the other. Marriage just doesn’t work out with them each time they try. They have lots of divorce cases before them and do not want to add to that list. Therefore, they prefer to stay single.
4. Because Of Poverty
Some men refuse marriage just because they don’t have the financial means from which to start a family and sustain one. They have no jobs and their means of livelihood is nothing to write home about. They avoid adding to their troubles by staying single and not marrying women they cannot feed or take care of.
5. Because Of Self-Judging Their Physical Disabilities
Some men think that because they are physically challenged–without a limb, blind, deaf, and dumb—ladies would not accept them as husband materials and therefore pass judgment on themselves by refusing to have any relationship with women. This is more of a mindset than a reality. They should start by changing their minds. Because you attract what you think the most. No wonder their experience is a reflection of their mindset.
The blind can argue that he cannot marry someone he can’t see. And the deaf says how can he marry someone he cannot hear her voice. And the dumb might also say how can he marry someone he cannot talk to. But you all know that blind, deaf, and dumb men and others who are handicapped do marry and are good husbands and fathers. Yes, they do marry. And not only can they marry the physically challenged ladies, but also the well-built and bred ladies as well.
Physical disability is not really a valid reason these men stay single. It’s more of the mindset that believes the false. There are other ways to communicate with the blind, deaf and dumb people which we all know make life easier and worth living for them. So don’t judge yourself and reject marriage which was created for you to be a part of.
6. Because They Have Not Seen Their Misses Right
Some men delay marriage unnecessarily or even reject marriage or the fact of getting married to just anybody who isn’t their miss right. They don’t want to desire and marry just the lady available but the lady destined for them. Anything short that they reject and prefer staying single than getting tied up with the wrong person.
And I must say that more often than not, they are insensitive to those dream partners and miss out on their ‘Misses’ right. It’s just like the reverend PC Akubueze usually said, that Mr or Miss right usually comes disguised. It takes more than just the physical eyes to discern your divine partner. Let me add that it’s possible to make your Miss Right from the partner or relationship that you find yourself in already. Every relationship demands some kind of work put into it to make it work for eternity.
7. Because They Don’t Want To Become Old Too Soon
Some young men are plain afraid of marriage because they believe that marriage makes men age more quickly than unmarried people. And they reject marriage because of this. Or they may postpone it and would want to do so later in life after they might have enjoyed the freedom of their youth. Anyway, Men who believe such need re-education on the joy and peace that a loving spouse enjoys within the bond of matrimony. They need to understand what marriage is all about and, most importantly, how to find a soulmate for a partner.
8. Because They Are Terminally Sick
Some men are just sick for marriage and spend a considerable time of their lives going in and out of hospitals. In fact, marriage is never on their minds since the sickness sort of condemned them to bed.
Some can not walk, eat or use the toilet by themselves, and are often bedridden. People in such conditions would not want to marry at all.
However, I think men in such conditions still have hopes and they should put that hope in God. Only God can heal completely and bring about a new beginning. God brings hope in a hopeless situation. If they have tried all they could with the good doctors out there, they should also try God for healing. If you desire healing from God, click here.
9. Because Of Misplaced Affection
Some men aren’t married or prolong their singlehood because they are in love with the siblings they grew up with. This has to do with men who literally fall in love with their blood sisters and members of the same family.
It’s likely that boys who aren’t properly groomed, not too exposed, and are not so social, fall in love with the closest at home with them. These boys can mistake the brotherly love for romantic love, and start finding their blood sisters attractive for romantic affection. They misplaced that God created romantic affection for partners on their own sisters, thereby, having incestuous relationships. And they can feel comfortable with it until someone intervenes to straighten things out.
Even in some extreme cases, you can find that some single fathers living alone with their daughters might be sexually abusing their daughters. That too is misplaced affection and the relationship is also incestuous.
Finally, I have just given some answers to the question, “Why Do Some Men Never Get Married? But I must reiterate the fact that part one, and part two only add a great deal of understanding to the subject entirely. Therefore, reading these articles is very consequential to mastering the subject.
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