8 Lies Women Believe About Beauty
Make-up. Glam. Glitter. Filters. Somewhere between mirrors, compliments, and silent comparisons, beauty stopped being something to enjoy and became something to earn. We look in the mirror and tacitly detest what we see. If only we could look like “her”, or so we believe, then we would be perfect.
In the course of writing this article, I looked up the meaning of the word, beauty, in my dictionary, and it says this: that which is attractive, pleasing, fine, or good-looking. And yes, this is our definition today, especially in the physical sense. That’s why we look ruefully at the shape of our thighs, or the color of our skin, or the zits on our faces.
To look good or treat your body well is not bad in itself. You should read about Esther (Esth. 2:12). But could it be that we now perform to be termed “beautiful”, rather than take care of ourselves from a place of awareness and acceptance?
As we look deeply into Scripture, we notice that God’s idea of beauty runs parallel to ours. For example, consider the Proverbs 31 woman. She was not beautiful only because she had a pretty face or nice curves. Rather, she was strong, wise, diligent, resourceful, industrious, hospitable, submissive, and a home builder. The writer of Proverbs commented on this as he ended her eulogy:
Prov. 31:30 – Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the LORD is to be praised.
Did you see that? She was a woman who feared the Lord. All her cachets stemmed from her reverential fear and love for God. Taking a cue from this truly beautiful woman, this article will reveal what true beauty is – the kind that God sees. But first, it will show you the lies we often believe about beauty with the hope that identifying the lies will lead you to the truth. Are you ready? I bet you are. So let us dive in!
8 Lies Women Believe About Beauty
1. Beauty Is Physical Perfection
We’re naturally wired to want to change the things we don’t like about ourselves. Maybe it’s the zits on our faces, or that our nose is too large, or that our legs are too “bowed” to be perfect, or even that our figures are way too slab-shaped to mean anything.
That’s why sometimes we apply makeup and go for different surgeries to compensate for what nature failed to give us. However, we must come to this realization: God loves us just the way we are – weaknesses and all. And interestingly, He created you that way for His pleasure and glory (Ps. 139:13-14).
He is not against us “improving” ourselves if it is okay and healthy for us. But it should be from a place of acceptance of ourselves, not from pressure to keep up with the images of the ladies in “Housewives”.
2. Beauty Is What Attracts and Keeps a Man
As I write this, my mind subtly goes to the women that Scripture called beautiful. In my search, I found Rebecca and Esther quite intriguing. The Bible did mention that they were beautiful. But it also mentioned that they were sexually pure (Gen. 24:16; Esth. 2:2,5).
Not just that, but their character was exceptional. Rebecca was kind to a stranger without acting to impress since she didn’t know his intentions (See Gen. 24). Esther was obedient to her guardian and was content, as opposed to haughty Vashti (See Esth. 2).
Most importantly, they had something others didn’t have: God’s presence, glory, and favor on them. That is what set them apart and made them truly beautiful and alluring to their partners – not just their faces or form.
3. Beauty Must Be Validated by Attention or Words
We all like to be told that we are beautiful. I know I do. In fact, there was a time in my life when I only believed that I was beautiful because others said so. Now, compliments are not bad. In fact, they are necessary and propitious. And sometimes, we need good people to affirm the truth we don’t see in ourselves.
But when it gets to a point where your acceptance of yourself or your beauty is hinged only on the validation of others, it poses a problem because when it’s not available, you doubt and question your beauty.
Basing it on attention, too, is risky, whether physically or on social media. You are not beautiful simply or only because a guy says so. No, you are beautiful because your Bridegroom validates you. And girl, believe me, that is enough!
4. Beauty Is a Body Type
I once read a book about a young actress who starred in major roles and was everyone’s definition of “success”. On the outside, she was perfect: slim, slender, with a “snatched”, tiny waist, aquiline nose, and curves that were positioned at just the appropriate places – nothing was lacking.
She was also on a strict diet regimen and was picture-perfect. Yet deep down, she longed for something – freedom. Freedom to be herself. Now, don’t get me wrong. There’s nothing wrong with wanting to stay fit. It’s very healthy for you.
But the question is, why? Because you have been sold the lie that beauty is only slim, tall, and curved? What if I told you that you are beautiful just the way you are? That’s when your Father sees you, He doesn’t see the “fat, ugly, short” lady whose clothes never fit? (Permit my choice of words) Instead, He sees beauty (Gen. 1:31). He sees His image (Gen. 1:27). He sees you (Gen. 16:13). Rest in Him, and He will show you how to be truly beautiful.
5. Beauty Is a Competition
Most of the time, because our perception of beauty has been distorted, and because we believe that it is only what attracts and keeps a man or makes us worthy, we do everything to preserve that image. And that includes eschewing the competition.
When we see other ladies who seem more beautiful than we are, we don’t stop to admire God’s creation. We compare and are engaged in a feminine feud. Then we look for ways to upstage. We think we are preserving our reputation, but beneath it, there is insecurity.
We’re insecure because we feel that if others look more beautiful, then no one would look in our direction. We fail to realize that God is a good Father who creates good things and gives good gifts (Gen. 1:31; Rom. 8:32; Matt. 7:11). If we rely on Him and wait on Him, then He will give us all that we need. Just to remind you (in a whisper): Your Father’s the King of the Universe.
6. Beauty Is Seduction or Revealing
A common lie we may not even know we believe or walk by is that beauty is seduction or should be revealing. But it’s palpable through our actions, especially through how we dress. When you expose certain parts of your body, have you truly considered the motive?
Or when you put on clothes that reveal sensitive parts of your body, what is the intent? Many people claim that others do it – even serious Christians. But hey, it doesn’t mean you should do it too. If you check closely, you hardly dress revealingly because you’re simply being you.
Most times, it’s actually to get the attention of the opposite sex. I might be wrong, though. The Bible encourages modesty (1 Tim. 2:9). And you can be modest with a touch of snazzy too. Don’t reduce your worth to some player’s “You’re beautiful”. Know who you are and be truly beautiful.
7. Beauty Fades With Time
Now, on one note (for physical beauty), this is absolutely true. But for this point, the emphasis is on godly beauty – the beauty of your inner self. There are many women who are overly concerned and worried about aging. That’s a valid concern. No one likes to be old.
And I believe that is why there are so many anti-aging therapies. While it’s true that these are helpful and can help us retain our youthful lustre to an extent, we’ll still get old. Maybe the reason we are so worried is that we feel that we would no longer be loved or admired by our partners and others when wrinkles become the jewelry that lines our faces.
But hey, that’s why your beauty should come from within. That’s the beauty that never leaves you. And a partner who falls in love with this beauty and is anchored in Beauty Himself won’t get irritated at what’s natural. Who knows, the love may even grow as you grow till it explodes! And is it just me, or is there a “Jesus-glow” irrespective of age?
8. Beauty Requires Constant Enhancement
Before we delve deeper, I would like to say that personally, I do not find it wrong to enhance beauty or take care of your body as long as it’s done in a godly, modest, healthy, and appropriate way, rooted in understanding who you are as a person in Christ.
However, if the pressure to enhance your beauty is driven by insecurity and a longing to belong where you don’t belong, that poses a real problem. Some ladies believe that if they don’t enhance their beauty, then it means they are ugly and unacceptable.
To this end, they are petrified at their natural look in the mirror and are always in and out of one beauty salon or another. But darling, relax. You are beautiful just the way God has made you. This doesn’t mean you should look like or treat yourself like trash. But let your beauty come from identity, not be for identity. Okay?
Now, we’ve identified some of the lies we believe about beauty. So what then is true beauty?
1 Peter 3:3-4 puts it succinctly: Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as braided hair and the wearing of gold jewelry and fine clothes. Instead, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight.
It doesn’t mean you should or should not use outward adornment depending on what works for you. What it does mean is that though you look beautiful on the outside, let your inner beauty (your character – your heart) radiate through you to your outside with God’s glory and Presence illuminating you. That is what makes you truly beautiful.
Finally, I once read that the word, beautiful could also mean: be-u-to-the-full. In essence, you are most beautiful when you are simply yourself. God made you on purpose for a purpose. It doesn’t matter if you are the natural or the fashionable type, because God calls us to shine in different ways.
But are you staying true to who God has made you to be? Are you beautiful God’s way? Are you truly beautiful? Seek Beauty and let Him make you truly beautiful. To the one who makes the King’s heart skip a beat every second He beholds you. Stay blessed and beautiful.
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