The Character Men Detest About Women – Talking Too Much
The statement “No man can tame the tongue. It is an unruly evil, full of deadly poison,” is the sobering truth of James 3:8 that we can’t ignore when talking about the character men detest about women. Particularly, we shall focus on that aspect of a woman who talks too much as a factor that diminishes the existence and longevity of a relationship.
It’s a fact that both genders face. Every human being talks as a means of communication. Preachers, Journalists, or broadcasters amongst others, talk a lot but they don’t talk too much. There’s nothing wrong with talking, but there is something wrong with talking too much. Someone might ask, “how much is too much talking?” Well, too much talking isn’t quarreling, although it can lead to quarrels and fights. Too much talking is talking more than it’s necessary for any given situation, occasion and moment.
Even the Bible warns us to avoid talking too because it’s never void of sin. “In the multitude of words sin is not lacking, but he who restrains his lips is wise” (Proverbs 10:19). It also says, “Whoever guards his mouth and tongue keeps his soul from troubles” (Proverbs 21:23). And adds that “He who guards his mouth preserves his life, but he who opens wide his lips shall have destruction” (Proverbs 13:3).
You can see clearly that when you talk too much, the possibility of sinning is high and destruction isn’t far from it. Who wants destruction? Of course, no one. That’s one reason men hate women who talk too much. No man wants to walk to the path of destruction because he allied himself with a lady who talks too much.
The Consequences Of Talking Too Much
1. Self Revealing: When you talk too much, you unconsciously reveal your own personal secrets and inner truths which should be yours alone for your personal growth, confidence, and strength. Consequently, you might become a weakling to your enemies and those who thought about you otherwise.
2. Betraying Trust: When you talk too much, you unconsciously reveal people’s secrets to their detriment and consequently, hurt the trust and friendship they had with you.
3. Oozing Lies: When you talk too, you can easily tell lies just to keep up with your talking habit. No doubt that the Bible warns us to avoid talkative people (Proverbs 10:19). Haven’t we seen that above?
4. Lack Of Sense: When you talk too much, you can talk out something that’s short of sense, because the speed of talking and that of thought processing aren’t proportional. Babbling doesn’t make a good reputation in a relationship.
5. Ignore Listening:
when you talk too much, you do not give room to hear others or have others speak. Because you think you have too many things to say, which isn’t usually true, you don’t mind what others have to say, and this attitude is wrong. James. 1:19 says, “Let every man be swift to hear and slow to speak.” you see, it doesn’t only encourage speaking but also listening. And the latter is of great importance. If you want to be listened to, you have to listen to others too. In addition, the Bible says, “He who answers a matter before he hears it, it is folly and shame to him” (Proverbs 18:13).
To answer a matter before it’s heard is because one doesn’t listen at all. A fool is even preferable than the person who talks too much. Ouch! I’ve just trodden on some toes. This is serious, you know. But I didn’t frame that up. The Bible did. It says, “Do you see a man hasty in his words? There is more hope for a fool than for him” (Proverbs 29:20). I sheath my sword.
When you talk too much, you can become braggadocious, insolent, and rude with what you say and be seen as a mouthy person. Proverbs warns against this when it says “Let another man praise you, and not your own mouth; a stranger, and not your own lips” (27:2). It even goes further to boasting of what you have or don’t have and even what others have whether you know them or not.
A lot of young ladies have been misled into thinking about inordinate desires for expensive material things because of what they heard from mouthy friends. They believed what they heard was true when it wasn’t.
On an occasion, a couple of young ladies were engaged in a fight because of their differences in what they considered to be the cost of US rapper, Cardi B’s boots. Can you just imagine? People who have never met Cardi B but were fighting over the cost of her boots?
There’s always a limit to what the mouth can say and it would do you good if you know the limits.
We must discipline ourselves to refrain from speaking when it is not necessary. This is one mark of wisdom and maturity. If you as a lady would want a cool relationship with the man of your life, consider moderate talking. Do not talk in a way that could hurt your relationship. Talking too much is a character men detest about women.
Have you been in a relationship with someone who talked too much?
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