9 Ways To Make Your Husband Step Up His Love Game
Do you at times wonder what is going on in the mind of your loved one when you expect more of them but see less and less of what they offer? Are you wondering why the behavior of your significant other is changing? Maybe you don’t feel the love you once had and enjoyed. Or your relationship is downgrading and you find it hard to understand what caused it. Well, I think I have something for you to think of that can open your eyes to what you may have been ignoring. Maybe the entire problem is coming from your angle and take of things.
This article with the 9 ways to make your husband step up his love game, is for you. Please read through carefully and make sure you understand what you read. I’m sure you would because of its simplicity.
The first thing to do if you want him to step up is:
1. Be peaceful at home.
Men love to run home after the day’s job because it is a quiet place made for them by their spouses. And that’s what the home is. When you make your home welcoming, your husband mises home often whenever he leaves. But if you are the kind of woman who picks a fight each time the man is back at home, coming home early will be the last thing on his mind. When you make your home uninviting, the partner begins to avoid things that could make him come home early or even avoid staying at home for longer hours. Make your home sweet. It should be his sanctuary.
2. Be pleasant to be with.
I have realized that no matter how tasty your food is it loses its appeal to appetite if being around the wife stresses the husband. This as a consequence makes the husband not adore eating with the partner. You may be a good cook but without giving the peace of mind to those eating around you, you would find your dining table lonely most of the time.
3. Be a secret keeper.
Is your partner your confidant? Can they trust you with words you hear and things you see? Can a partner come close to tell you their secrets because they trust you? This is a no-brainer, no husband or wife opens up to the other if they realize that you are not the secret-keeping type. If they did before, they would shut up once they noticed that you aren’t a confidant.
4. Allow Issue-free dates.
Some husbands don’t go on a date with their significant others because they end up emotionally drained with past issues brought up on date venues. That is quite an inappropriate place to discuss the divisive bedroom wahalas. Date nights or venues are meant to bring spouses closer. Who spent money and time on venues just to come and handle bedroom palaver?
5. Focus on ability and strength.
Marriage is to Empower couples and not deplete them of energy. We all have weaknesses and strengths. But we should focus on the strength and the good about our partner. If your husband is a problem solver, you should look at him as such. You shouldn’t demonize him and make him feel like the devil and you the angel. Do not condemn or criticize him to the point where he loses self-confidence. That won’t help you. Stop the blame game and make him a problem solver by the way you think and talk to him in moments of crisis.
6. Have a good attitude.
All males, as I know, like women with good attitudes to be with throughout their day. If you love to have your partner make love to you often, just imbibe a pleasant way of behaving. Make your attitude good. You may look sexy but you won’t be attractive if you have a persistent bad demeanor.
7. Be fun to chat with.
You wonder why your spouse never calls you or does so less frequently? Maybe you’re the type of person who starts a fight while chatting and sees phone calls as an opportunity to address negative unresolved issues at home. No, that’s not why he calls you. He’s your friend who wants to know how you are doing. But you end up making him feel like his call is unimportant and discuss trivial issues that only breed tension. And as such, he stops calling you.
8. Speak with a love tone.
Some wives aren’t listened to because they don’t know how to talk to their spouses. If you want your husband to take your advice, you have to talk softly and gently. You don’t order him around as would your slave. This only hardens him and makes him despise your own words and suggestions.
9. Be appreciative.
If you want him to do more for you or the family, be more thankful for the little things that he does. The more appreciative you are of the little things he does, the more likely that he will do more. If you are a grateful wife, you are going to see more good things to be appreciative of. The Bible says to not despise the day of small beginnings (Zechariah 4:10). If you praise a man for what he did, he will likely do so again or even more.
I hope I convinced you that you can do something to make him up his game. But not only that head knowledge, I also believe that you practically will implement what you considered helpful to your life, to change your mind and behavior in order to change him.
It’s been your girl Chika
Peace out!!
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