The Advantages Of Sharing Your Dreams With Your Spouse
Couples are people who met with an intention to live and spend the rest of their lives together. These are two individuals who are complete in themselves as human beings, yet with different personalities, aspirations, and dreams that scream for fulfillment in life.
To be a couple is a dream in itself. When you aspire to be with another for life, it is a dream. That is a vision. A long term vision in that matter. The marriage-dream is a category of the dream which every couple falls in. It’s called the collective dream as couples.
To encourage couples to make their marital dreams work better, we’ve put together some advantages of sharing dreams or visions or projects together with your spouse. Please note that there are slight differences between a vision, dream, projects, and goals, but in the light of the subject, it really doesn’t matter at what level the desired task may be. What’s important is the submission and undertaking of each by the couples in question.
If it’s at the vision or dream level, share it with your spouse. If it’s at the project or goal level, share it with your spouse. Do you see what I mean?!
So there wouldn’t be a situation where a spouse says, “I didn’t tell you because it was just a dream.” No, tell your partner because it’s a dream. That’s the person you share your life and time with. If anything has to take your time, even the abstract things, share it with your partner. That would help your relationship grow stronger together.
Having said that, the advantages of sharing your dreams with your spouse are as follows:
1. It Helps With Time Management
It’s really a good way to manage your time well. We all have the same amount of time daily. It is only 24 hours a day, nothing more, nothing less. Whatever couples do in life daily is within those 24 hours. Sharing your dreams with your spouse makes your spouse aware of the use of their time well and allocates time enough to accommodate your dreams. Time management is one of the advantages of sharing your dreams with your spouse.
2. It Helps With Self-Management
You can know what to do and have the time to do it but don’t do it. These are quite different things, you know. Self-management is the alignment of oneself to the allocated time of a task or project. When the couples share their vision, they can not only allocate time to a task to be done, but they would align themselves with the time allocated. It’s the discipline to respect the time set to complete a project.
3. It Helps With Organized Planning Of Activities In The Family
Nothing would be done at random and nothing would be taken for granted for the family with a shared vision. Things done would have been planned ahead of time. To plan your activities well is one of the advantages of sharing your dreams with your spouse
4. It Helps Build Trust In The Relationship
It’s not easy to share personal dreams with someone. There’s a level of trust that is invested in such acts. With shared visions or dreams, the couple learns to rely on each other’s contribution to make the dream happen. This act of trust, if not abused, only strengthens the bond within the relationship. Therefore, the relationship gains more trust and becomes a source of confidence to the partners involved. Trust building is one of the advantages of sharing your dreams with your spouse.
5. It Helps Remove Unnecessary Stress In The Relationship
There’s the stress that comes with the surprises of life; the unexpected and unplanned things; not forgetting the lack of time to do certain things. But shared vision takes care of that. It removes such unwanted and unanticipated stress. The stress that comes when couples don’t know what to do in any situation would have been averted with a shared vision.
6. It Helps Improve Mental Health
A planned life removed stress. And a stress-free life improves our mental well being and general health, including the spiritual one. It’s just as simple as that. Improved mental health is one of the advantages of sharing your dreams with your spouse.
7. It Helps Secure Time For Spiritual Activities
There’s also a set time for spiritual family activities like prayer, Bible studies and fellowship which shared vision helps to appropriate. When couples share their vision, they see their yearly calendar right in front of them which facilitates the allocation of time to the spiritual activities within the family. And both partners would respect that time, allowing nothing to replace it, hence it becomes secured. Never let time for family fellowship be something you struggle with at home. Secure it!
8. It Helps Couples Set Priorities In Life
The couples because of shared vision would focus on what is important to their lives and relationship. With sharing vision, couples see their clock on paper as against their activities and focus first, or only on what is of great importance to the family. With a shared vision, they would prioritize well. Setting priorities in life is one of the advantages of sharing your dreams with your spouse.
9. It Helps To Redeem Time For The Family
Shared vision creates and saves enough time for the family generally. A lot of things take our time daily that are very meaningless and insignificant to the growth of our lives. So, when we share vision, we plan well and gain more time from our meaningless activities. This wasted time is recuperated for something better and useful to the family that can strengthen the relationship.
10. It Helps Inspire Teamwork In The Vision
This means that because the dream is shared, the other spouse would be inspired to come on board. When a vision is still personal, you kind of feel it alone, and carry the burden of responsibility alone. But when it’s shared, it’s no longer personal because your spouse now knows about it. And the good side is that your spouse could prove to be of immense help to you in fulfilling the vision. Shared efforts only come with shared visions. Teamwork is one of the advantages of sharing your dreams with your spouse.
11. It Helps Evaluate The Strengths Of Both In The Vision
Since we have different talents and abilities, each partner would define a particular role, task, and contribution to make in fulfilling the shared vision. They would know by themselves what the wife can or cannot do and what the husband can or cannot do. By evaluating the strengths, they would outsource or seek external help where necessary in order to fulfill their shared dreams.
12. It Helps Increase Understanding In The Relationship
There are extreme cases where one partner travels to work to a far location with the consequence of seeing each other periodically or occasionally. In these cases, their partners would understand the situation because they have shared the idea between themselves and talked over it. Each partner would be aware that the other goes out to work far away from home. This would put to rest any impending strife, conflicts, and complaints, and increase the peace within the relationship. Shared vision brings increased understanding in a relationship.
In conclusion, it’s never too late to start if you have never shared your dreams with your spouse. You can begin today, for today is also a day that the Lord has made just for you. If you’ve been doing so, do not stop doing it. Work out your marriage together. Share dreams together. Fulfill the dreams together. For you, the reader, thank you for your shared time.
Now, tell us which of the advantages mentioned above have you benefited in your relationship? Do you have other suggestions?
Adapted from Reverend PC Akubueze’s Teachings, For Smartcouples.net © 2020. All Rights Reserved.
Hi Joshua, you couldn’t have said that better. Thanks for sharing your story with us.
When I first shared my dreams of owning my own business with my other half they didn’t understand it and at that point, we were on different wavelengths in our relationship.
But over time we have been more vocal about what each other wants to achieve in the upcoming years and I would agree with you in that it does make things better and strengthens your relationship.
Going through each of the 12 advantages I can resonate with them all especially number 10 as teamwork is always needed regardless of the situation.
Hi Jenny, don’t feel discouraged to share your dreams with him. He also needs the motivation and you stand in a great position to do just that. Maybe, the way he’s been or/and your relationship is because the aspect of shared vision was missing in the relationship.
Don’t be discouraged, tell him what you intend doing and get him involved in certain areas that can practically keep him alive. Most important thing is that when you share your dreams with him, carry it through with actions. Don’t just stop but make it happen.
When your husband begins to see results, he will begin to have a rethink and become, consequently, your teammates. Don’t feel bad at any of his discouraging moves towards you. Own the dream and take action even if alone to see it happen. Then give him updates. Let him know the progress of your shared dreams, even if he refuses to be a part initially. I wish you all the best with your spouse. Thanks for sharing your story with us.
This is such an informative article. I feel like this is really motivating me to share my dream with my husband. My biggest concern is how. My husband and I have such different life goals. He has very little motivation and I want to be top of my game. He just tells me I need to relax and stop trying to go outside the box.
Hello Brother Paul, to say I am glad to hear your story is an understatement. You are a very blessed man, indeed. Yes, one read isn’t enough to grab all the article has to offer. Keep being and doing you. You are doing great. My regards to your lovely wife. May the great Lord continue to blessed you guys.
Hi Charles,
I work from home I share all my dreams with my wife. For me, my wife is my life! We have our vision and goals written in the living room, office room, prayer room, bedroom and even in our bathroom. She is the one who writes the goals for me & pastes it and she supports me a lot.
We have an 11-month-old baby by taking care of him still she supports my online business. You are correct because I shared my visions and goals with her and she said your vision is my vision and your goals are my goals, Glory to GOD. She provides me great support.
While I am cleaning our Church on Saturdays, attending bible study, while taking Sunday classes, etc she will be working on my online business. Your post means a lot to me and I got helpful insights. I believe one read is not enough and I am bookmarking your post for future reference.
You are welcome, Shanta. And yes, you are such a lucky woman. Isn’t God a good God? I pray for continued success in your relationship. My regards to your husband.
Many thanks to you, Charles, for sharing such a wonderful article with us. I teamed up with my husband with the intention of spending the rest of his life together. I got the man of my dreams to be my husband and this is a dream too. There are many benefits to sharing the dream of a bridal life. My husband thinks and shares all his thoughts and dreams with me. Am I not a lucky woman?
Dreaming has made it possible to manage time properly. As a result, we have the benefit of managing ourselves properly too.It has helped us in organizing family activities. Sharing all the words has created confidence in ourselves, relieved stress in the marriage and also improved our mental health. With it, spiritual activities, and setting priorities in our lives. aren’t things that we find boring and difficult, you know!
We are all very happy in the present and hope that we will be happy in the future as well and, hopefully through your article, many will bring happiness to their bridal lives and will certainly share their new experiences with you. Thanks again for such an awesome write-up.
You are welcome Harich. I am glad to hear your story. Improved mental health cannot be overstated. I pray for consistent peace within your union. Thanks for the comment.
Wow! Great points made. While reading I know that time management is one of the advantages of sharing your dreams with our spouse. It has been my helper so to say. Therefore, our relationship has gained more trust and become a source of confidence to us the partners involved. If that can work for me, it can with any couple.
Improved mental health is one of the advantages of sharing our dreams with our spouse. Just imagine if all is going as planned, none would be mad or stressed the other. Your guide is very awesome to tell you the truth. Thanks for sharing this with us.
Hello Parveen, you are welcome. I am very glad to hear your story. Thanks for sharing.
Hey, I enjoy a lot while reading your article and find it very useful for every spouse. Dream sharing is very helpful in many ways. It gives confidence to achieve them. I see there are many great benefits that you outlined. The one that helped me most is time management. Sharing our dreams with our spouse makes our spouse aware of the use of their time well and allocates time enough to accommodate our dream projects. How I wish our spouses can all read this article. By the way, I’m so feeling confident, having read through. I think my days ahead will be better used than in the past years. Thanks so much, Charles for helping couples out there of which my household is among.