How To Share Your Dreams With Your Spouse, Part TWO – Understanding Shared Vision
When you agreed to marry that lady or that gentleman, you have appended your signature to a dream sharing memo. Having done that, is it not ludicrous to share your life and body with someone whom you can’t share your dreams with? What’s really the point of coming together? I find that preposterous indeed, and even more so because there’s an ignorance attached to it; a real lack of understanding shared vision that screams at the height of its voice.
Personal And Collective Dreams
Every individual has a dream, and every couple has theirs too. The individual’s dream is called a personal dream and the couple’s dream, which involves a man and a woman, is called a collective dream. With that said, let me make this compressed statement.
Every couple has a dream personally and collectively. While marriage is a collective dream in its own right, there are some dreams which each one has as individuals. These individual dreams should be shared. You don’t kill your personal dreams because you got married. And no partner should encourage such practice or be their partner’s dream killer.
Marriage brings together two visionaries, two project managers who are the couples themselves. These individuals might have different talents, abilities, or capabilities, which shouldn’t be a source of conflict but should be used to harness and fulfill dreams and visions for the good of the couples.
Partners have dreams or visions, and projects or goals to reach, whether short or long term. In whatever case, the couples should share and support each other’s Vision, and not tear each other up or pull them down. They should work together and build their future as they would like it to be, all because they shared their future dreams with each other.
What It Means To Share Your Dreams
To share your dreams is like a shared vision. This basically, is that long term dream which a spouse has but doesn’t keep it personal. He or she tells his or her partner for their inputs, contributions, and ideas to make the dream come true. The couple thinks together, strategizes, and develops ways their dreams can be fulfilled together. The shared vision can be reduced to goals, and projects which are short term, and a follow-through daily action plan, including methods of reviewing their plans from time to time.
To share your dreams with your spouse also means to tell them about the dreams and each of you find where you belong in making the dreams happen and activate your strengths and talents to fulfill the dreams. Every one of you becomes a support to each other. There’s truly no conflict, no animosity, and no jealousy in sharing dreams and visions. This is how to share your dreams with your spouse.
The Fears Of Sharing Dreams
At times one could be afraid or worried to share their personal dreams with their partners, thinking they wouldn’t show empathy, and thus discourage them. Well, I think this is a valid point, though. There are some couples, of course, who might disagree with you. Some spouses can discourage dreams and even kill your dreams. Yes, some partners are dream killers, you know. And this is one reason for this article, to help dream killers become dream makers and dream fulfillers.
However, it’s worth saying that not every spouse is a dream killer or discourager. Not everyone lacks empathy when a dream is shared. Accommodating these wrong ideologies about dreams and turning them into positive energy is what you will do after reading through this article. This is also one reason we’ve penned this article.
The disagreement, the discouragement, the lack of empathy when a dream is shared with one’s spouse or partner in a relationship, are the reasons why you should share your visions clearly with your spouse. In most cases, the disagreement comes because of ignorance and because they do not understand the dreams you claim you have.
Every partner who loves you and understands your dreams would support your dream. But the problem lies with the understanding part of the dreams because often they are left in the dark for whatever reason. They are not told what the dream is all about. But this darkness will fade away by the sunlight that comes when you properly articulate your dreams with them. Again, this is how to share your dreams with your spouse.
The dream of coupling, or say the dream as a couple, birthed via the contract of marriage, is very compatible with individual dreams. By sharing it, comes the understanding of the dreams and then empathy follows, and consequently, the agreement between the couples in question becomes easier to do. Therefore, don’t feel perturbed about dream sharing as couples, but be sure that you make your dreams and yourself very clear to the love of your life.
When your spouse understands your dreams, it would help your relationship save a lot of time as you people would only apply your time on what really matters. It’s also helpful in project and self-management.
In addition, if you don’t share your dreams, your partner who doesn’t know about it may not know how to help you in fulfilling your dreams. For more on this, see the Advantages of Shared.
Dream Sharing Is A Part Of Life
Dreams aren’t what you fulfill overnight, so you don’t keep it to yourself and have it fulfilled within 24 hours. That would have been okay if that were the case. But it isn’t the case at all. You can’t fulfill a life’s dream within 24 hours, whether personal or collective. It just doesn’t work that way.
To fulfill a dream takes time as it’s a part of one’s life. It would be unreasonable and unwise not to tell your spouse, a person with whom you share your life. Don’t let that chunk of life pass you by struggling alone with a dream. Keep loving your spouse, while you share your dreams with your spouse. You both can help out each other, gaining time, feeling fulfilled without hurting the bond of the union. For more on this, click HERE.
To recap, I have said that whatever the circumstances may be, couples are people with dreams or visions that scream for fulfillment. They want their dreams to come to pass. Although it’s a dream to exist as couples, they individually can have separate dreams of their own with which they come into the union of marriage. And such dreams respectively deserve fulfillment as well.
You do not necessarily have to lose your personal dreams because you met your partner. You rather have to share your personal dreams with each other, in order to incorporate it into the dream of being together as couples. This is because Marriage is a collective and long term dream, contracted by people with personal dreams.
Have you ever shared your dream with someone you loved? Tell us your thoughts, let’s know what you think about dream sharing.
Stay safe, everyone.