The Lousy Reasons For Cheating In A Relationship, Part Two – Marriage And Relationships
In continuation of our previous teaching on the subject of cheating, which you can find by clicking here, we bring to you the concluding part which is titled, “the lousy reasons for cheating in a relationship, part two – marriage and relationship.
Our main aim is to let you know that these practices aren’t acceptable or morally right, although it happens. Furthermore, it’s good to know that it’s avoidable; that one can curb its practice or stop it entirely to turn a new page in any relationship. Without much ado, the next lousy reason for cheating is:
1. Because They Attribute The Fault To Satan
Have you heard about someone caught cheating and all he or she could say is to blame the devil? You weren’t raped but willingly committed adultery or cheated on your partner and when you were caught, all you could say is that it was the devil.
The devil and God aren’t a match, and never equal in all ramifications. However, these two spiritual entities are the most blamed of all woes on earth. Whatever evil that happens, either you hear, it’s the devil’s fault or ‘God why?!’ You can’t blame the devil for something you decided to do and enjoyed doing.
You see, God created humans with volition, I mean that faculty or ability to decide and choose for yourself. Volition is what makes humans powerful than animals. God Himself who created volition respects it in humans. He does not force anyone to do anything for Him or accepts His divine offers. Even with the works of Jesus on the cross–His death and resurrection.
God still appeals to people to accept the offer in Jesus by willingly believing in Him whenever one wants. The premise is “whoever believes shall be saved” (John 3:16). It’s not by force to believe in Jesus. Although God is almighty and has the power to force you to, He still respects your volition and allows everyone to freely choose Jesus.
Similarly, the devil or Satan cannot force you to obey him, he also appeals to your mind with his lies. Nobody can be forced by Satan to do something against their will, except for spiritual possession. When we say “NO” to Satan, he respects the “NO” and leaves to try another time with his lies.
Obedience to God or the devil is a choice that we consciously make whether to yield to one or the other. So stop saying that it’s the devil’s fault whenever you sexually erred. It only exposes your ignorance and irresponsibility.
2. Because The Perpetrator Plays The Dumb and Victim
Have you heard someone caught cheating who said, “Sorry, It’s not what you think! Or I don’t know what came over me?!” They go even further telling the one they hurt that they can explain.
This is another lousy reason some people give for excusing their act of cheating. When they are caught cheating, they usually play the victim who didn’t plan it but at the spur of the moment, they did it. Usually, they act as the one who does not know what came over him, as someone pushed into doing what was against their wish.
They would try to pacify you whom they have hurt to believe their stories which may sound like they never wanted to do it, or they were in a very compromised situation that they couldn’t think properly… Before you knew it, it just happened… Blah blah blah. In all attempts to justify their position, they still don’t make any sense.
3. Because Of Financial Problems
Some couples cheat on each other because of the lack of money. That’s also called prostitution. I have realized that some ladies are forced into this because that’s what puts food on their table, on the one hand. And on the other hand, some ladies and men too are into this because of the love of material things and the love of money.
I’ve just mentioned two things here. The lack of money, and the love of money and material things. The former is for survival while the latter is just avarice. Both of which are wrong, anyway. While one is doing it shamefully but hoping to leave it behind, the other finds joy in it and is proudly doing it.
There’s even an extreme and troubling case where the husband discusses and agrees with the wife to engage in prostitution. Both the husband and wife are aware that the wife does prostitution by night or day and comes back home to her husband. Hard to stomach, isn’t it? BUT IT HAPPENS.
Although there’s a mutual agreement in what she does, she still cheats on her husband with each man that uses her. The husband, by virtue of such agreement, is licensed to cheat on her with whomever he desires. And such acts destroy the bonding with marital relationships.
4. Because Of Selfish Motive
Selfish motive can cause cheating too but this one is relative. A selfish motive is all about one partner and what one can get out of the marriage.
To some, it could be material things, money, fame or power. And to others, something personal whether good or bad.
When you are desperate to have someone, you can do anything, sometimes, silly things just to get it. When you want something from someone and use love to work your way through, there is the possibility that you would find another love interest when your goal isn’t achieved. And even when it’s achieved, there will be a trust issue lingering.
It is hard at times to trust people in a relationship with ulterior motives. They usually have plenty of options and can move from one to another.
5. Because They Want To Make A Point Or Statement
There’s a saying, “An eye for an eye, and a tooth for a tooth” which some partners run with it in a love relationship. When one cheats and is caught, the other takes revenge by cheating as well. This is one of the lousy reasons for cheating in a relationship. You cannot commit adultery because your partner committed adultery. No! Two wrongs do not make it right. An eye for an eye makes the whole nation blind. It makes the family go blind.
Adultery has consequences that burden the family. The consequence of adultery brought by the husband affects the family. The wife who should be the source of remedy aggravated the situation by committing another act of adultery, therefore, importing more consequences into the family leaving the situation worse than it was. So you see that the reason for cheating was quite regrettable.
The “do me I do you” experience is not for couples. It has no place in a relationship which is all about love, forgiveness, and building on positive vibes. Learn to think of the consequences of your actions if you are acting in reprisal. Reprisal actions are usually anger motivated and most times, they aren’t in accordance with reason or logic. They just lack a healthy rationale behind the actions. Finally, it’s good to end by citing an admonition from the Bible which says, “In your anger, do not sin” (Ephesians 4:26).
In recapitulation, we have said that the lousy reasons for cheating in a relationship are because of Satan, because they play dumb and victim, because of selfish motive, because they want to make a point, and because of financial issues.
Tell us, Is there any lousy reason you know that couples give for cheating on their partners? What have you learned from this article that can help your relationship get even better?
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