What’s Cheating In A Relationship? Is Flirting Cheating? – The 5 Kinds Of Cheating In A Relationship, Part 1

What’s Cheating In A Relationship? Is Flirting Cheating? – The 5 Kinds Of Cheating In A Relationship, Part 1

Many philosophers and relationship experts have put out different teachings centered on cheating in a relationship. Some of which are inspiring and others confusing. Some of these teachers struggled on the subject as they were unable to distinguish between the definition of cheating, the kinds or types of cheating, and the illustration and demonstration of cheating.

Some gave several illustrations of cheating and called them definitions, types, or kinds of cheating. So they defined cheating by just the ways people do it, which is very subjective as it varies from one couple to another. The subject then becomes difficult to understand when one tries to define cheating by the ways people cheat rather than by what they do in relation to what it actually is. The word Cheating we are talking about is an action word. It’s a verb. To know it and do it are two different things. But the ways you do it make it a third item, which is totally different because it’s controlled by many variables including cultures.

There can be a million ways people cheat but these ways don’t define cheating. To have a million ways to cheat doesn’t mean there are a million definitions of cheating. Similarly, there can be a million reasons people cheat, but these reasons do not define cheating. To have a million reasons to cheat is not to have a million definitions of cheating. Following such a distorted view of cheating literally makes people cheat without even knowing what to cheat means, or might justify their act of cheating because of one’s personal gains.

However, I have come to present it differently, cutting the butter with a hot knife. It’s either one or the other. You either cheat or you don’t; are a cheater or not. Period! Cheating is cheating; a cheater is a cheater, although he or she can change.

You can have many causes of cheating but one definition of cheating. You can have several reasons to cheat but one definition of cheating. You can have several kinds of cheating, depending on your criteria for classification, yet have one definition for cheating. The definition of cheating isn’t that hard at all.

Cheating Defined

Cheating basically means unfaithfulness to commitment. It means you are not faithful to the person you are married or/and are committed to. It means infidelity. It also means going against the contract, in this case, marriage or a committed relationship. Cheating also means not following due process in whatever one wants to achieve or accomplish. It means to take a shorter route, a quicker means, and even a distorted means of getting what one wants. Cheating is giving out any area of intimacy to someone else other than your contracted or committed partner. It could be attention, words, presence, and coitus.

Cheating could be troublesome to some marriages and can lead to the dissolution of the contract of marriage.

One thing is always present when cheating is concerned and that is Selfishness. Cheating is being selfish, no matter how you may sugarcoat it. It’s all about you the perpetrator first, before your partner, the victim, comes to play.

A Distorted Motive For Cheating

Some people who advocate a distorted view of cheating might say they cheat to help their partners. Really? That’s preposterous, but it happens. Well, the fact is not everyone understands true love and the value of what they have as partners at home. You can never short change what you value and revere so dearly. And when you understand true love and what it really means, you would fight for it to protect and to keep it. One of the ways that people fight and protect their love lives is in the area of cheating but sadly, that’s where many fall.

With the many talks shows and written articles on cheating out there done by serious-minded people, we’ve tried to see cheating from different perspectives, and have made some conclusions about the practice. Some of which may or not include the other, but each conclusion can stand independently of the other. That said, the five kinds of cheating are Physical cheating, Emotional cheating, Financial cheating, Sexual cheating, and Relational flirting cheating. Yes, we’ve considered flirting as cheating. Hold your peace, for we shall comment on each respectively.

Physical Cheating

You can physically cheat with someone you love or don’t love. By physical, we mean the presence of a person having the experience. This involves giving you most of the person’s time. The person, male or female, spends quality time with his or her physical presence geographically. In physical cheating, his or her presence matters a lot, because it has all to do with geography, location, and place, without any form of sexual relation.

There’s physical cheating if one’s partner always spends quality time with another person who isn’t his or her marital or love partner. She can walk for miles just to be with you (a lover or just a friend) while she is already a married woman. He can drive to a different city just to see and spend time with another lady he is not married to. And they may not have any sexual contact in the course of the time he spent with the lover.

You can cheat physically without having sexual intercourse with the person. So you begin to cheat when you start spending that quality time with someone else you would have spent with your own partner. That’s where the physical cheating starts. It’s not only when the sex is involved that you call it cheating. No. The cheating starts when you keep investing time on the wrong person.

What are your thoughts about physical cheating?

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