10 Ways The Youths Can Keep Themselves Holy Before Marriage
Living a disciplined and contented life in all aspects has its own rewards. We live in a society where sin is painted good and well-packaged and made very alluring for both young and old. We are exposed every day to sexual perverseness and immorality. These 10 Ways The Youths Can Keep Themselves Holy Before Marriage can help young people stay pure before meeting their marital partners.
We must have this consciousness that God is against us sinning especially with our body because our body is His temple, and when we go about giving our hearts and trust to humans in a relationship, we should keep reminding ourselves that God is everywhere and He sees everything we do, even the deepest of thoughts.
Below are 10 ways the youths can keep themselves holy before marriage.
1. Be Genuinely Born Again
A young man or woman who is trying to keep himself or herself holy before marriage must first be born again genuinely. No one can see the kingdom of God unless they are born again (John 3:3). If you don’t have a personal relationship with God it will be impossible for you to please God (Hebrews 11:6) and keep God’s laws (2 Timothy 2:19; 1 Thessalonians 4:1b). It’s not the will of God that any should perish but that all should come to repentance. When a man becomes born again, he puts away the old man, which means he’s no longer under the law of sin and death but under Grace. And God’s Grace leads to holiness.
2. Be Prayerful To Know God’s Will
The Bible encourages us to watch and pray (Matthew 26:41a). Before building that relationship or embarking on that journey of getting courtship and marriage, you must first communicate with God to know what His plans are concerning you (Ephesians 5:17). You can’t claim you know God and you don’t talk to Him about everything. With prayers, your steps can be guided into the right relationship that will give glory to God at the end or take you out of that relationship that would destroy your relationship with God or your destiny.
3. Obey God’s Word
You must study God’s word (2 Timothy 2:15) to know the truth about what God is saying concerning holiness and applying it daily in your life (John 8:32; Psalm 119:9). You must understand that sexual immorality is a threat to fulfilling God’s plan for your life and your body, God’s temple (1 Corinthians 6:18). This is why the apostle Paul said to “flee from fornication” (1 Corinthians 6:18-20, 1 Corinthians 6:9-10). Disobedience of Scripture is breaking God’s law. Obedience to God’s word is presenting yourself holy before God as a living sacrifice (Romans 12:1) and that is not only fulfilling Scripture but also makes you holy before God and marriage.
4. Follow God’s Leading
When we allow God to lead us always as young people (Psalm 119:105), we will end up content, knowing when He speaks (1 Timothy 6:11; John 10:27), because His plans for us are good (Jeremiah 29:11). Our responsibility is to allow God to lead us. By doing so we can be sure of where He wants us to go, what He wants us to do, and what He wants us to say no matter how confused we are or complicated a situation may be. God’s leading takes us through holy paths while keeping us holy in our youth.
5. Be Decisive In Serving God
Being single gives you the best opportunity to serve God wholeheartedly without any form of distraction, though you can serve God while married but better while single. Learn to use your time wisely to serve and honor God. Serve God in your youth as a matter of decision. When we serve Him, He said he shall bless us (Psalm 37:4). As a youth, be spiritually minded and connected with God.
6. Be Transparent
Since we know the world is full of wickedness, and under the control of the devil ( 1 John 5:19), let’s develop the willpower to say no to sin especially in sensitive issues of our youth that involve emotional intimacies. Be self-disciplined by controlling your emotions and not allowing your emotions to control you. A wise man said integrity is doing what is right when no one is watching. Let your ‘No’ be no and your ‘Yes’ be yes (Matthew 5:37).
7. Be Spirit-Filled
You can’t live a sin-free life without the presence of the Holy Spirit (John 14:26). You must practically exhibit the fruits of the spirit by putting your body under subjection (1 Corinthians 9:27). By doing so, you will not fail God. You invite the person of the Holy Spirit into your life and allow Him to guide you through (John 16:12). Being Spirit-filled helps in developing youthful holiness before marriage.
8. Don’t Take God’s Grace For Granted
We know God is a merciful father who forgives sin but we should also bear in mind that He is a consuming fire. We should avoid taking God’s mercy and grace for granted. As a youth, you should have this consciousness that you were bought with a price and shouldn’t be used as an experimental tool for the devil (1 Corinthians 6:20). Fear of the unknown has made many young singles give in to sexual sin. You must be unpredictable as a child of God (John 3:8), putting on the whole armor of God (Ephesians 6:13-16). This helps you in being holy.
9. Maintain Positive Vibes
You must have a spiritual and positive mentality while in a relationship that is tended for marriage. Always know that God delights in you being righteous (Jeremiah 9:24). You don’t get carried away by the trends and vices of life around you. Others are committing sexual immorality and compromising doesn’t mean you should do the same. Look unto Jesus as a role model and follow the paths of genuine born again Christian couples whose lives are blessings to Christendom and the world.
10. Avoid Secrecy In Your Youth
Be open, avoid secret meetings thereby not giving room to be tempted or sin against God. No matter how strong you feel you are, avoid being caught in a lonely place with the opposite sex. You must rely on God’s strength and the Holy Spirit to keep yourself holy and righteous (1 Samuel 2:9). Be decisive, defensive, and get radical when you are exposed to sexual impurity (2 Timothy 4:7).
You don’t watch what you don’t want to see, sin stinks and sinks a man. Always trust God for the best and that includes the choice of a life partner. Doing the right thing at the right time, in the right place is what makes a man right. Remember that even when God forgives sexual sin its consequences remain. Wisdom is truly profitable to direct (Ecclesiastes 10:10).