How To Grow Spiritually As Couples, Part 2 – Pray As Couples
In our previous article, we focused on couples going to the Church together as a step towards growing spiritually with your spouse. Today, we shall elucidate prayer as a factor of spiritual growth for couples, and shall also teach you the ‘How to’ in this article titled, “How To Grow Spiritually As Couples, Part 2 – Pray As Couples. ”
In order to grow spiritually with your spouse, Couples Should Always Pray Together. Prayer is an indispensable part of the lives of Christian couples. And even others who aren’t Christian, such as the Muslims, Buddhists, the Jews, and many others, they also do pray.
Unlike them, our own prayer is unique, not just because we have access to God directly (Hebrews 4:16), but also that we do not separate our females from the males during prayers. There are some religions that espouse that a man mustn’t pray with a woman at the same location for purposes known to them.
However, in the Christian faith, the women and the men can pray together without let or hindrance. Jesus Christ has bridged the gap that ever existed between people to come closer to God (Galatians 3:28-29). Everyone can pray together to get God’s attention. You the husband can pray with your wife without fear of religion or contradiction. In other words, couples can pray together. And please do!
To make your spiritual life more exciting for prayers and easier to follow, I would show you practical ways to go about this.
1. Create A Family Prayer Altar
Building an altar doesn’t mean erecting a physical structure at home. No, it simply means to have a time and place where all members of the family can gather for prayers.
An altar basically is centered on prayers. A point of contact or a place of connection between you and God. Your family altar can be a room, a corner of the house or the entire house you live in can become that altar whenever it’s time for prayers. But one thing must be clear here which is the fact that all the members of the family must gather there to pray.
This includes the children and everyone under the roof of the house without exception. Even visitors who come in at the time of prayer are to join them if they like. It’s not exclusive to the household. This family altar grows as the number of occupants at home increases.
2. Create A Marital Or Spousal Altar
A marital altar is only for both of you as couples, where you can pray together without the interruption of others. There are certain things that you should pray about when just the two of you are present. This includes all the love affairs, marital issues, mistrust, unforgiveness, and issues to confess to each other and forgive each other, etc.
These are things to talk it out here to God and to your spouse at the spousal altar. Find time convenient for you both to do this. It must be voluntarily done. I suggest at night, but others might find it okay any time of day to do so. Unlike the family altar, this marital or spousal altar never increases in number as the members of the family increases. It exists for just the couple, for the two of you, and stays for two.
3. Create Your Personal Altar
We’ve mentioned three different altars under prayers that help couples grow spiritually together. While there are family prayer and spousal prayer sessions, there’s also the personal prayer session that everyone has to develop as a Christian. Your fellowship with God is a personal thing, first of all, that is not lost when you get married. It’s rather enhanced not forgotten or lost.
There must be that time of day which only you can speak to and with God. It’s strictly personal to you and your God. Don’t lose this aspect of prayer just because you have a family prayer going on. God can minister to you personally, especially without the presence of your spouse or children. It’s an individual time for you alone; a quiet moment spent with the Lord. Don’t lose your personal prayer life. That’s your personal altar done anytime and anywhere. Whether home, in the car or office.
To recap, we’ve said that couples should pray together as another step of how to grow spiritually with your spouse. We also facilitated the step for couples to practice by breaking it down into three altars namely: the family altar, the marital or spousal altar, and the personal altar. There’s no greater admonition for couples than that which the Bible admonishes us to pray without ceasing (1 Thessalonians 5:16-18).
Tell us, have you considered praying with your spouse? And how has it improved the relationship?