The 7 Factors To Improve Your Chances Of Getting A Spouse – Dating and Relationship
Marriage, also called matrimony or wedlock is a culturally recognized union between people, called spouses, that establishes rights and obligations between them, as well as between them and their children, and in-laws. There’s no one size fits all method of getting a spouse or married. As people differ, so are the circumstances. A factor that can help get a spouse for Mary, might not work for Hussein. But there are some qualities that can help everyone generally get into a destined relationship with the best there’s out there for you. In order to attract and kick off such a relationship, however, we’ve gathered some points in this article titled, “The 7 factors To Improve Your Chances Of Getting A Spouse” to help you achieve just that. These factors are:
1. Don’t Fake You, Be You
Stay yourself without faking your personality. Sometimes you might wonder why you aren’t getting into a proper relationship with someone to love and marry. Or maybe they come and go just like that. One of the reasons for this is the fake personality that some people wear– both female and male partners. Fake personality might attract but it can’t keep what it attracts as far as love is concerned. For love to really endure, be your true self. Better still, be yourself to attract and keep the love. Someone who comes into your life has a reason and would likely back down when the reason loses its fragrance or just disappears. Don’t fake you, be you! for more on this, click here.
2. Understand The 21st Century Love Search
Women and men search for lovers and spouses too in this 21st century. This is an era of technological enlightenment more than any other time that preceded it. At this age, there’s a lot of information to help your search for love or someone to be with. It’s not just the traditional method where ladies wait for the gents to come fetch them or make the first move. In this century, women also advance their moves to the men they want to be with.
Women search for their potential spouses. And women tell them when they see them. They don’t just wait for the person they see and like to come to them, but they initiate the first moves to convince the male to come. Please, it might not be for everyone because of tradition and culture within a certain locality but understand that we are in the 21st century, and it’s okay when you express your feelings to the one you love or want to love, whether you are a female or a male. There’s nothing wrong with that. If the person doesn’t reciprocate, you still don’t have to kill yourself because you’ve just done a good job: to express your feelings. But do not harass the person once you let your intentions known.
3. Understand That Age Is Just A Number
The age of a partner doesn’t really matter as far as there is genuine love. This is true to both sexes. Women and men of sixty years still fall in love anew. You can fall in love with someone older than you which is still okay if you say so as an adult. As in most countries, marriage is between two consenting adults. We do not encourage underage girls or boys to enter the contract of marriage. We do not encourage child-marriage whatsoever.
However, as an adult of above 18 years, as stated in the constitution of most nations, your consent to marriage someone should be respected irrespective of the age of the object of your love. A woman or man can fall in love with a partner 10 to 20 years older or younger than the other. If as an adult you are happy and want it, it’s okay. Age is just a number, except the purpose of the union can be hampered by age variation. Say for example, when a woman is in her menopause or so.
4. Don’t Rule Out Parental Guidance
I mentioned this because your parents can assist or be of help to your search for a spouse or partner. Since they know you well and know what you want that would be good for you, according to your disclosure to them, they can act as potential agents to facilitate someone into your life without you being there necessarily. You may be in Florida and a parent is in London and talks about you to someone they know may want you. Words from the parents could be received with more trust and carefully considered than words from just anyone who’s not that close to you. So the parents increase your search limits or borders. In addition, the parents can give you good counsel concerning the search for love which your heart is open to receive. Good parents give good advice.
5. Don’t Rule Out Guidance From Trusted Friends
Not everyone is trusted and we are not saying that you should trust people just like that. Trust is not given but earned. However, an advantage of a Close circuit of friends is that they have developed trust over time and you know them as they know you too. With friends that close, you can be helped in your search for a spouse. They, like the parents, can act as agents of search. I mean facilitators rather than hindrances. You can marry someone because you heard what his friend said about the spouse. Trusted friends want the good for their friends. But be careful, they must earn trust because some friends too can kill and be the source of pain in a relationship. Just be guided, anyway!
6. Don’t Rule Out Your Mobile Environment
What do we mean by the mobile environment and what happens there? Simply put, Your mobile environment is the place that you find yourself daily as you move about. In other words, everywhere you are, where you find yourself, is your mobile environment and a potential place to meet someone to love or to be loved. You never really know what could come out of your mobile environment. Couples can become spouses because of an impromptu meeting, you see.
It’s possible you just meet someone spontaneously who later becomes your life partner. Therefore, be conscious of your environment as you move about and be of good behavior for someone might just be watching. I think it’s right to mention that the Bible tells us to do Good to strangers because some people by so doing have entertained angels (Hebrews 13:2). Be good, therefore to everyone you meet. Don’t let your angel pass you by because of your own actions or inaction.
7. Demonstrate In Real life The Qualities You Intend To Attract
I do say: “Live it to want it”. The Bible says to do unto others what you would have them do unto you (Matthew 7:12). That’s basically what this point is all about. What do you look for in a spouse? Are you ‘it’? Can you recognize it when you see it? Can you maintain it when you have it? Do you have the character to accommodate it? The best way to answer these questions is to live your life outside as if you were already with the person you are searching for.
Let people say she’s kind because they see her kindness. Let them be kind to you because you are/were kind to them. Let people say he is well-mannered because they see the qualities oozing out from you/him. A mad man wouldn’t attract a sane person. And vice versa. You who say you want a degree holder to marry, do you have a degree yourself? If you want someone who’s a giver, are you a giver yourself? There’s nothing wrong with having a checklist for a potential spouse, but be sure that you can cross those qualities on that list as regards your own character or personality. Let it be done to you as you do to others is the moral lesson here.
To recap what we’ve been saying, The 7 Factors To Improve Your Chances Of Getting A Spouse are 1. Don’t Fake You, Be You! 2. Understand The 21st Century Love Search. 3. Understand That Age Is Just A Number. 4. Don’t Rule Out Parental Guidance, . 5. Don’t Rule Out Guidance From Trusted Friends. 6. Don’t Rule Out Your Mobile Environment, and 7. Demonstrate In Real life The Qualities You Intend To Attract. Do you agree with some of our points? Share your experience with us if you have any.
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