Reason people go after the love they can’t protect – Materialistic Love
How does the eye react when an object tries to go close to it? It blinks in order to protect itself from that foreign object. The blinking is an act of protection.
Marriage is an institution guided and guarded by love. The love within marriage should be strong enough to protect the union from collapse or separation. But what we find most of the time is a union called marriage that’s not strong enough to stand the test of time. Couples quickly fall in love and quickly fall out of love.
I intend to state the reason people go after the love they can’t protect, which I also call Materialistic Love. And when I’m done, you’ll have a better knowledge of what protecting one’s love relationship means. This will help you value your relationship and safeguard it from internal and external intrusion.
But first, What does it mean to protect a relationship? Simply put, it does mean that you protect your love. This happens when you do all to avoid or minimize anything that would put in peril the physical, emotional, psychological, socio-economic, and financial state of your partner in love.
It’s wrong to enter into a relationship which “you know” that you can’t sustain, support, reciprocate, protect and desire its continuity. Notice that I said “you know” because, in many situations, one party or even both involved know that this relationship cannot work out for them but they still go ahead with whatever they call love.
Some even see a plethora of red lights that could slow, stop or warn them, but they ignore these red lights and get on with their relationship thinking all would work out well. And it doesn’t. It doesn’t because a healthy relationship is not just a product of wishful thinking. It involves conscious works consistently put into it. It involves positive actions that reflect the vision of being together. It involves the protective covering of the area of weakness by one partner to the other.
The Materialistic Love
That being said, the reason people go after the love they can’t protect is The love for material things. It could be money, cars, houses, businesses, designer clothes, etc. These Couples tend to love expensive material things much more than they love each other. I mean when You love things more than you love your spouse or relationship, that relationship is not protected. It’s the kind of relationship that would be on the high when there is money, but when there’s not, the mood swings to its low.
A person who loves you because you’re rich and can provide for the material needs whenever asked is not reliable and that relationship may not stand the test of time. In that relationship, the expression of what you see as love would always revolve around things. Consequently, when things aren’t available, or are no more, the trouble sets in.
There is nothing wrong with desiring expensive things. But there’s everything wrong with loving things over loving your own spouse. The Bible says that the love of money is the root of all evil (1 Timothy 6:10).
No, It did not say that money is evil but the love of it is. Money is good and answers all things (Ecclesiastes 10:19). But it’s meant to be used, not to be loved. People, rather, are to be loved. But when you love money more than people, you turn to use people which is problematic. It’s not right!
In the Bible, we have a record of Delilah whose lover was madly in love with her. She had love, and most especially, had one of the greatest men of her time right by her side. She also had God on her side by reason of her would-be husband. But her eyes didn’t see all these glorious qualities in Samson. Her eyes were focused on material things.
What she needed the most was love. But She wanted more money than she needed love. Her love was materialistic. She loved material things more than the love of her life and consequently sacrificed what was important and permanent for what was insignificant, temporary, and short-lived.
The Holy book reveals to us what was behind her many attempts to betray her lover, Samson.
“Sometime later, he fell in love with a woman in the Valley of Sorek whose name was Delilah. The rulers of the Philistines went to her and said, ‘See if you can lure him into showing you the secret of his great strength and how we can overpower him so we may tie him up and subdue him. Each one of us will give you eleven hundred shekels of silver’” (Judges 16:4-5).
The love of Money was Delilah’s problem. She loved money more than her marriage to be, more than her future, more than her family, more than her lover, Samson. And She consequently lost everything because of the materialistic love.
Let me bring it home where we have ladies who go after men because of what they could get from them, not necessarily because of the love factor. And even if they “fall in love” but couldn’t get what they intended, their love for you ends. This also goes to the men who look for only rich women to emotionally fine-tune.
A lady prior to her wealth might not have suitors, but all of a sudden suitors begin to queue because she has become wealthy. This must not be at all but it happens. Any love relationship that prioritizes material things for it to exist, exists for an exit. Can I say that again? Any love relationship that prioritizes material things for it to exist, exists for an exit. In other words, it lives only to die. It starts only to terminate. It begins only to end. In such a relationship, any wise person can see the end from the start.
Do not go after him or her because you want to get something from them. But go after him or her because you want to stay permanently with him or her.
Don’t go after them because they are rich, but go after them because you love them.
Dear reader, do not let material things hinder you from entering into your destiny with your assigned partner, nor stop you from marrying the love of your life. Don’t allow the love for materialism to be the reason to leave your marriage. Don’t go after the love that you can’t protect! Don’t accept Materialistic Love.
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Credits: A Teaching By PC Akubueze, Adapted, and used under permission. © 2020 All rights reserved